Writing is hard. Like really hard.
Now that I’m posting weekly blogs, I sometimes put a lot of pressure on myself to deliver fabulous content with a great message. But there are many times when I don’t know what to say or where to begin. Today is one of those days.
I thought if I took some time to sip a coffee* while chilling on my back deck I’d get some inspiration. The only thing I got was annoyed. There’s new construction taking place behind our house and the noise from it is anything but peaceful.
*Ok, it was a decaf vanilla latte with only ONE pump of vanilla in it. It has to be decaf because my wimpy body can’t tolerate much caffeine. And it has to be only ONE pump of vanilla because anything more is way too sweet to me.
So back into the house I went to hunker down and do some writing. Right after I made myself a breakfast smoothie, put a load of laundry on, emptied the dishwasher, and wrote a few messages.
I’m the queen at avoiding things I don’t want to do (i.e. paying bills, cleaning my house, having hard conversations, writing this blog, to name a few).
Why do we do avoid things we don’t want to do? What’s it going to get you? In the end, the only thing you’re gonna get when you avoid the shit you don’t want to do (I’m looking at you, you big pile of unfolded laundry scattered all over my bedroom) is more stress. Chances are you’re thinking about that task even while you’re avoiding it.
For example, the unfolded laundry that infiltrated my bedroom has been chilling there for a few days now. Every time I see it, I sigh and think “I’ll look after it soon.” I’ve let that stupid laundry annoy me way much longer than it would’ve if I’d just taken the damn time to fold it and put it away. When I do look after it, it probably won’t take more than an hour (there’s a lot to fold…). That’s cray cray. I’m basically causing myself unnecessary grief by avoiding ONE short hour to get that shit folded and put away.
BRB – need to move the laundry to the dryer. Damn you laundry! Ok. I’m back. Where was I? Right – I was talking about avoiding shit.
The thing is, if you stop thinking about how painful doing [INSERT NASTY TASK YOU’RE AVOIDING HERE] is and just do it, you’ll be much happier. Instead of focusing on how much you don’t want to do it, try focusing on the outcome. For example, I know I’ll be much happier when my laundry is living in its proper home all nicely folded vs. living all over the place in my bedroom.
It’s really no different for the harder stuff. Maybe you won’t be particularly happy after you tell your boss you’re not going to make the project deadline, but after the conversation is done, you’ll likely be relieved. If you repeatedly find yourself avoiding stuff you need to get done, try the Five Second Rule by Mel Robbins. I use it to get my ass to the gym on a regular basis. On gym days, I put on my gym clothes and sneakers before I’m even fully awake. By the time they’re on, I’m committed. 90% of the time, it works!
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Now on to you! Share in the comments below what you like to avoid. And if you rock at getting shit done, please, please, please share how you do it! I guarantee we could all use some tips on how to get ‘er done.
Now I must go thank my laundry and my avoidance skills for this post. And at the same time, maybe I’ll put the laundry away…